Pillar of Wellness: Social

Wellness is an active process of becoming aware of and making choices towards a healthy and fulfilling life. … “Wellness is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.” – The World Health Organization.”


The strength of your social networks and having friends and loved ones who care about you, not only make life fulfilling, but can impact how well you overcome challenging situations. Below we delve into the social pillar of wellness.

A Sense of Connection

Our relationships can offer support during difficult times. It involves building healthy, nurturing, and supportive relationships as well as fostering a genuine connection with those around you.

We all face life’s challenges, but you do not have to try and do it alone. 

Having a healthy social connection with family, friends, colleagues, is part of mental well-being to not only have a good support system around you but that you are a part of that support connection.

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Know Thyself

Get to know yourself, identify your needs, preferences and values and communicate them to the people around you. Giving more energy to positives than negatives helps to keep us happier, healthier, and more hopeful. Work on building your strengths; it is what carries you through Life. Move toward your goals, Look for opportunities of discovery.

Regularly acknowledging the positive qualities, you see in yourself and paying genuine compliments to others you care about feels good all the way around. The power of positive thinking can go a long way! Watch what you think and say.

Social strengths are all about how you interact with others in your family, community, and workplace. Some good social strengths include being a good listener, a good friend, being truthful, following rules, resisting peer pressure, respecting personal space, and comforting others.

You have untapped abilities to be used in  your social circles. Dig in, find them and develop them. The old adage of “Use it or lose it applies”. If you keep on thinking like you have always thought you will keep on getting what you have always got.

“One of the hallmarks of social wellness is being inclusive, not exclusive, with our friendship.”

 Laurie Buchanan, PhD


Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it’s a simple concept in theory, it’s something we very often overlook. Good self-care is key to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It includes using positive coping skills to manage stress, self-soothe and relax through fulfilling or creative outlets like hobbies, crafts, art, sports activities, hiking, dancing, and social interactions with friends.  

Self-care is a personal matter. Everyone’s approach will be different. It relates to what you do at work and outside of work to look after your wellbeing. We all have slightly different social needs. Determine what your social needs are then build enough time in your schedule to create an optimal social life.

Your self-care is not something that just happens, it needs an active attention to planning and goal setting. It is an active choice and you must treat it as such, and actively look for opportunities to practice self-care. Develop  a list of changes you  want to implement in your life. Talk to yourself like you  would to someone else. Use your name and state your goals – e.g. I will achieve great progress in my life this year etc.

If work supports self-care activities that is great, however you need to  do things outside of work that will help you build resilience. When leaving work – count 1, 2 ,3 and close or shut your computer down. This is your disconnect action.

Reassess your self-care plan on a monthly  basis and adjust it. Remember it is your plan, it is your life. Aim to give the best of who you are in all you do and not what is merely left over. This requires you to balance your life.

Social Pillar Check Up

A sense of connection
  • Who are you connected to? 
  • What does your support base look like? 
  • Who can I support?
  • How am I building a support base?
  • What does your social connection look like?
Know Thyself

Get to know yourself – identify your needs, preferences and values and communicate them to the people around you.

  • How well do you know yourself?
  • What are your strengths
  • What are your interests? What hobbies do you have? 
  • What do you like to do?
  • What have you done for yourself today?  
  • Have you taken time to  relax  / meditate today?
  • When are you going for a walk, cycle, or other exercise?
  • Have you disconnected from  work?  
  • What is getting in the way of my self-care plan?  
  • What 3 things am I thankful for today? 
  • Self-care is my responsibility, how am I doing?
  • Have I had a good laugh today?

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